I first want to thank the Lakewood Scoop for interviewing me in their wonderful newspaper. You can check out the interview here.
I also want to share a really wonderful online magazine for Jewish girls and teens called Yehudis. My friend sent me to it and it looks really awesome. Who knows, you might see some of my writing in there too 😉
Okay, now on to today’s rant.
Besides the fact that I had a class in the matter this past week, these ideas have been on my mind for a while now. I have been thinking a lot about a lot of things recently, and one of things I was thinking about was respect.
Respect. Let’s see what Rav Google has to say about it first:
A feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
Respect is a positive feeling of admiration or deference for a person or other entity, and also specific actions and conduct representative of that esteem. Respect can be a specific feeling of regard for the actual qualities of the one respected.
What I have to say:
Respect is something that is extremely important. It one of the main psychological human needs according to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.
One cannot grow when they are looked down upon, or rejected. If they manage to do so it is a high achievement and extremely hard.
So what is respect?
Basic Respect is when someone sees you as a person made in the image of G-d and can accept that you are human and have faults. Basic Respect also comes with seeing another person (whether you know them well or not) be successful or do something large, hard or great.
Real Respect is something we must work on. Real respect is when you see someone’s shortcomings, you accept them, and trust that they are doing the best they can. This usually is with people you know well, such as good friends or family. When you know someone well, you also know their shortcomings well and sometimes it’s hard to step back and say “she’s doing her best” because if YOU were her, you’d do better. But you aren’t her, and being her would come with the package of many OTHER things in her life that she deals with great and you would have trouble with.
But when you truly appreciate and love someone and see their shortcomings-then you are one of the only people in the world who can truly say- “You are doing amazing and I respect you because of the way you react in the face of all your struggles.” That’s one of the best things you can say to a good friend. Because you KNOW her struggles. And you KNOW how hard she is trying.
The highest level of Respect I won’t write much about here. It’s about taking real respect to the next level and having a constant real respect no matter what. This is for marriage darlings 😉 . But I didn’t come here to teach you bayit hayehudi, right?
I personally know what it feels like when people don’t respect you. You feel like a big zero, worthless, and like you have no right to be living. After all, why should you be living if no one appreciates who you are?
In any case respect is something we all need.
When we feel respected we feel confident in ourselves, and then we can reach our full potential.
It’s another to work on…
Keep the comments, letters, emails, and questions going my lovely fans!
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