Kay, here’s a so un-musing like post but this was what was on my mind!
I see you sighing.
Ya, I know you have taken like 20 million tests about this. Or you have no idea what I am talking about. Either way, I suggest you listen to what I have to say.
Personally, I think a lot of this stuff trying to figure you out is usually just time wasters. Inside of us lives all the middos, traits, and feelings that exist. What makes us different and unique is of how much we use, feel, and react with. So there is some truth to the matter that you may be more outgoing, friendly and so on. Of course it’s true. But when you do these things, dopn’t lose sight of the fact that you are a person. A person cannot be defined by a word, or a feeling. People are so complex.
I imagine (with my very vivid and over-hyperactive imagination) what talking would look like physically. I imagine these abstract ideas and thoughts, pictures through color, pain, and shapes coming out of people’s heads than mushed and formed into physical words. (Which are colorful, in case you were wondering) Now, when we do this, we are taking usually a big idea, and putting it into smaller words, in other words (did I mention I like words?) we are shrinking the gigantic idea that came out of our mind into small meaningless words. This is why it hurts to be name-called so much. People are literally putting you, your neshoma, brain, yechida, ruach, soul, dreams, thoughts, ideas, family, life into one tiny little word, and not even a good one at that. Ouch. Doesn’t really fit, no?
Anyway, but these types of tests can give you a feeling of what you are more inclined to do and get to know yourself better. Now, in case you have read through all this and still don’t know what an extrovert or introvert is, than here we go:
EXTROVERT: an outgoing person; (a person concerned primarily with the physical and social environment rather than with the self.- NOT NECESSARILY, but meaning more social, outgoing, life of party.) Someone who recharges their energy from being around people. Company of others as it makes them excited. Doesn’t mean that they are good with people or happy all of the time, but that other people’s company is important to them.
INTROVERT: Opposite of extrovert. A person who is energized by spending time alone. Often found in their homes, libraries, quiet parks that not many people know about, or other secluded places, introverts like to think and be alone.
Contrary to popular belief, not all introverts are shy. Some may have great social lives and love talking to their friends but just need some time to be alone to “recharge” afterwards. The word “Introvert” has negative connotations that need to be destroyed. Introverts are simply misunderstood because the majority of the population consists of extro.verts
Why does it matter where you fall on the introvert-extrovert spectrum? Because introversion and extroversion are at the heart of human nature. Depending on what you are, different things re-charge and de-charge your batteries. You won’t understand why you can have so much fun at a party, but only for an hour or two.
We all have to do things that don’t come naturally—some of the time. But it shouldn’t be all the time. It shouldn’t even be most of the time.
(Remember, though, that no one is all introvert or all extrovert. Introverts attend wild parties, and extroverts curl up with their favorite books. As the psychologist Carl Jung put it, “There is no such thing as a pure extrovert or a pure introvert. Such a man would be in the lunatic asylum.”)
Anyway, once you find out what you are, you can better understand yourself.
Here are a test to do that will let you know what you are:
I had heard about extrovert and introverts before, I had taken many tests but every one came out different. I felt myself in the middle. I love the mall, my friends, getting out, parties, trips. But I love writing, I love my blog, poetry, conversing one on one. If I am alone too much or by myself for too much I get depressed, I need equal of both. Anyway, my friend sent me this, and I was like “Oh Hashem, another one of these?” I clicked it and say there were an even number of questions, and after the test I found out they had finally created a title just for ME!! Well, maybe not just for me, but you get the point.
Turns out I am an ambivert. I am both, I need both things. It’s really cool. Sometimes I wonder how rare a person like me is? C’mon I am
10% of the world for being a lefty.
0.2& of the world for being a jew
2% for being a redhead
Something small % for having amber eyes. (Yes, amber is a color of eyes!)
And for being an ambivert…well, also not very common.
Have a good shabbos!
Be in touch!